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Bridal Shower Do’s and Don’ts | Outstanding Advice

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After being named the maid or matron of honor for a wedding, you’ll likely find that your to-do list has grown exponentially. Suddenly, there’s an endless list of events you’re expected to plan, or help plan, and appointments that you must attend with the bride. You’ll also find that you quickly become the go-to person for the bride when she needs something, including advice on whether to invite her soon-to-be mother-in-law to an event, opinions on accessories to compliment the bridesmaid’s dresses, or just someone with whom to vent frustration over the wedding craziness. One of the biggest tasks on a maid (or matron) of honor’s to-do list is the planning of the bridal shower. While you may feel pressured to make this day perfect for the bride, with some solid planning and preparation, pulling off the ideal bridal shower can be a breeze (or at least not overly stressful!). Here, we’ve compiled a list of “do’s” and “don’ts” that will help you plan a special day the bride will not soon forget.

Bridal Shower “Do’s”

  • DO…Talk to the bride about the type of shower she wants to have, unless it is a surprise shower. She has likely been envisioning her bridal shower for as long as her wedding!

  • DO…Send out paper invitations rather than emailed invitations. While email invitations are quick and easy, the invitation truly sets the tone, and even the color scheme and theme for the party!

  • DO…Discuss the budget with everyone who is contributing (other hostesses, parents, etc.) in order to avoid overspending.

  • DO…Choose a fun theme or color scheme that is representative of the bride and her interests, and that is different from that of the wedding.

  • DO…include DIY projects, ideas, and decor to help cut costs and make the party unique – Pinterest is a great source for brainstorming. Who doesn’t love a homemade photo backdrop and a bottomless mimosa bar?

  • DO…plan a fun activity or a simple game to help liven up the party and allow everyone to meet each other. We like this list from Ultimate Bridesmaid.

  • DO…delegate someone to take detailed notes while the bride opens gifts to ensure her thank you notes are easy to write.

Bridal Shower “Don’ts”

  • DON’T…select a date for the bridal shower without first coordinating with the bride, the other bridesmaids, the mother of the bride, and any other hostesses.

  • DON’T…invite people to the shower that are not invited to the wedding, unless it is a very small wedding or a destination wedding. You want to avoid hurt feelings! Be sure to coordinate with the bride on the guest list before sending invitations.

  • DON’T…create an overly rigid schedule for the bridal shower, but do have an idea of the order and timing on key moments, such as when lunch will be served and when gift-opening will begin. Allow the shower to flow naturally so guests can really enjoy themselves!

  • DON’T…select games to play that are embarrassing for the bride, take a huge amount of time to complete, or are overly cheesy!

  • DON’T…feel like you have to plan a “traditional” bridal shower, instead be creative! The bridal shower should cater to what the bride enjoys – after all, it’s a celebration in her honor! A cooking class, or a wine tasting event, are some of the more popular and yet “non traditional” bridal showers.

While this list is by no means all-inclusive, we hope that it will serve as a guide for you in planning a special and enjoyable bridal shower. We also hope it will help you feel a little less stressed when you’re asked the big question, “Will you be my maid of honor?”

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